Take a frank look at your journey and apply your energy towards some exciting changes.
There is an incredible freedom in being able to let go and be open to new opportunities coming from unexpected sources. When you are open to changing the quality of your life you will notice new people showing up. These people can give you some exciting opportunities to expand your knowledge and network.
This time of renewal and growth will help you grow stronger and be more independent.
A big part of renewal is your social life – it can build you up or drag you down.
It helps to take a look at where you stand.
Determine your true Values:
What do you care passionately about?
Focus on the values that really matter to you.
My true values are family and helping others understand their emotional grief journey. My true values matter to me so I focus on them daily.
What are your Core Values?
What do you stand for? List 3 things that you will never change belief in. True values are
expressed in your actions. What gives you the best value for your time? That indicates what
you should do. Remember time spent is forever gone – it’s not like money that can be earned.
My core values are God, Respecting the value of others and My health. But as I write this I realize that my actions are not matching my values. I’ve been getting a little slack, but I can do better. What will be your call to action?
How would you change your life if you had no fear?
Don’t let fear get in your way. Maybe more to the point is – What would you like to leave as
a legacy? Who did you love? Did you really live life to the fullest? After you have passed on
what would you like people to say about you?
I used to fear failure but I’ve found the more I do the less power fear has over me. Any improvement is better than standing still, so as long as you are moving towards your values you can’t fail.
For most people, the major challenge in life is not just handling a crisis. It’s the daily demand to get going day after day, to keep going in the face of grief and pain. Consistently choosing to do what needs to be done rather than what you want to do.
Keep moving. In those moments when you are tempted to take a break to avoid an unpleasant task, resist. Energy in motion tends to stay in motion. If you work at another task instead of resting, you will find it easier to approach the unpleasant task.
Take the time to listen to your reasons for procrastinating. Are they excuses or valid reasons? Most of the time, our justifications have enough truth in them to trick us. Perhaps you can begin with a few low-risk changes and gradually move into the social life changes that you want to take.
Visualization has been all the rage for the past decade or so. All types of people are enjoying mental images of their future success in the hopes they will attract it. Does it work? Yes and no. It depends on the person, but it may be worth a try. Imagine completing your task. Next, imagine what it will take to get you there. What obstacles and challenges will you face? According to the research, holding these two images in your mind simultaneously is the best guarantee you will reach your goal and overcome procrastination.
Use your energy wisely. At the beginning of the day or the night before, determine your goals and priorities for the day. If possible, tackle them one-by-one. Use the strategies above to know your values and work on getting rebalanced.
You may be very surprised at how much more balanced you can be. And at how much more you will enjoy your life when you move out of your comfort zone.
Author of the book “The Sisterhood of Widows”